Taking Charge of Anger: How to Resolve Conflict, Sustain Relationships, and Express Yourself without Losing Control by W. Robert Nay

If anger is starting to rule your life, or someone else has urged you to get a grip--or else, anger expert Dr. Robert Nay has a six-step plan that can help you regain control, even in the most stressful, hot-button situations. This proven program shows you how to stand up for yourself without losing your temper. Put a lid on destructive anger once and for all with fine-tuned strategies that help you: *Figure out which of the five faces of anger are a problem for you, from passive-aggression to all-out rage. *Recognize the early warning signs of anger in your physical sensations and thoughts. *Identify and change unrealistic expectations you have for yourself and other people. *Communicate effectively when differences arise--with your spouse, family members, colleagues, or others. *Practice anger-management skills alone and in public until they're second nature. For anyone who needs help with anger, Dr. Nay's program is effective, easy to learn, and--unlike other methods--brings about lasting change. See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences. Editorial Reviews Review 'Taking charge of your anger is a journey,' Robert Nay observes. Your patients who have problems with anger control and aggression could not do better than to take this journey by reading this practical, engaging, user-friendly guide. It blends instructive anecdotes and case material with self-help suggestions that are based on empirically validated procedures. Strongly recommended!--Donald Meichenbaum, PhD, Distinguished Professor Emeritus, University of Waterloo; Research Director, The Melissa Institute for Violence Prevention and Treatment of Victims of Violence, Miami, FL Rarely does one find outstanding scholarship and clinical wisdom wedded in one book. Such is the case in Dr. W. Robert Nay's exciting text. The writing style is highly engaging and the text is filled with numerous relevant examples. This book is a 'must read' for anyone who wants to learn to utilize anger reactions more effectively, whether in personal relationships or the work world. It is a self-help goldmine from a very wise individual who is also a scholarly expert in the anger control field.--James P. McCullough, Jr., PhD, Department of Psychology, Virginia Commonwealth University Dr. Nay presents clear, effective, and nonjudgmental road maps for identifying and gaining control of anger. He is a skilled clinician whose work is comprehensive, and helpful. Following this program is likely to help you improve your communication and closeness with the important people in your life.--Stephen Winter, President, American Healthcare Institute If anger is a problem for you, Dr. Nay offers a step-by-step, practical model for what sets off your anger, what happens once you 'lose it,' and how you can gain control. With control, anger will no longer have a negative impact on your personal, social, or work relationships. I can attest to Dr. Nay's abilities as a teacher and trainer. Now he brings his expertise directly to readers in this excellent book.--Larry B. Silver, MD, Department of Psychiatry, Georgetown University Medical Center Nay's comprehensive, rigorously ordered, step-by-step management program for identifying, understanding and defusing anger will surely continue to find a broad and welcoming audience across modern societies. One of the features that sets apart Nay's approach from other anger management programs is his refusal of the usual reductive definition of the problem...In favor of a uniquely broad definition of anger as having a spectrum of 'faces.' His program rests upon a long trial and research period (over 25 years and hundreds of treated cases), and has evolved through the decade that Nay has been using his model to train professional therapists across the country, working in the fields of mental health, medicine, social work, substance abuse, and school counseling....A worthwhile read for everyone. It provides the basics for any community, school or family program for rethinking ways of relating. A highly detailed step-by-step program for restructuring one's life, this book has positive messages and useful strategies that can benefit every individual and every community! ? Mental Help Published On: 2015-02-26 About the Author W. Robert Nay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in McLean, Virginia, and Annapolis, Maryland, and Clinical Associate Professor at Georgetown University School of Medicine. The author of two psychology textbooks, Dr. Nay has taught thousands of mental health professionals nationwide to conduct anger management training with their clients. He has appeared repeatedly on national television to discuss media violence. His website is www.wrobertnay.com. Excerpt. ® Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Introduction Step One. Understanding and Recognizing Anger 1. The Faces of Anger: Who Do You See in the Mirror? 2. Behind the Mask: Understanding Anger and Its Expression Step Two. Identifying and Preparing for Anger Triggers 3. Understanding Your Anger Triggers Step Three. Pinpointing Your Anger Early On and Dampening Arousal 4. Anger Awareness 5. Dampening Anger Arousal Step Four. Identifying and Changing Thoughts That Fuel Anger 6. Recognizing Thoughts That Fuel Anger 7. Rewriting Your Script: New Thinking for New Solutions Step Five. Staying Cool Under Fire 8. Assertive Problem Solving: Expressing Anger Constructively in Conflict Situations 9. When Anger Is Aimed at You Step Six. Staying the Course: Sustaining New Behavior and Coping with Roadblocks 10. Establishing New Anger Habits 11. So You¨ve Had a Setback: Getting Back on Track Appendix 1. Self-Assessment of Anger Questionnaire (SAQ) Appendix 2. Personal Anger Scale Appendix 3. Anger Analysis Suggested Resources References Index Excerpt. ® Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Introduction Step One. Understanding and Recognizing Anger 1. The Faces of Anger: Who Do You See in the Mirror? 2. Behind the Mask: Understanding Anger and Its Expression Step Two. Identifying and Preparing for Anger Triggers 3. Understanding Your Anger Triggers Step Three. Pinpointing Your Anger Early On and Dampening Arousal 4. Anger Awareness 5. Dampening Anger Arousal Step Four. Identifying and Changing Thoughts That Fuel Anger 6. Recognizing Thoughts That Fuel Anger 7. Rewriting Your Script: New Thinking for New Solutions Step Five. Staying Cool Under Fire 8. Assertive Problem Solving: Expressing Anger Constructively in Conflict Situations 9. When Anger Is Aimed at You Step Six. Staying the Course: Sustaining New Behavior and Coping with Roadblocks 10. Establishing New Anger Habits 11. So You¨ve Had a Setback: Getting Back on Track Appendix 1. Self-Assessment of Anger Questionnaire (SAQ) Appendix 2. Personal Anger Scale Appendix 3. Anger Analysis Suggested Resources References Index